I can’t take full credit for this particular Tarot Troubleshooting Tips post idea. This was absolutely inspired by my 7 year old daughter today. I came in from cooking dinner to find that she’d laid out my shawl to use as a blanket. She was sitting on it cross-legged, eyes closed, making some very pronounced ‘OMMMMM’ sounds; she is a constant surprise. While this was a bemusing sight for me as a parent, it got me thinking about grounding, as it relates to reading Tarot.
Everything seems to come back to Tarot.
Grounding is not a term that is heard a lot where I live – the average person wouldn’t have a clue what I’m on about if I told them to go and ground themselves. I’ve tested this theory and received some very strange looks. I think its often taken for granted that people automatically ‘know’ what is meant by grounding.
I’m going to level with you. I have 2 kids, 2 and a half businesses (I can explain! LOL), 3 dogs, a snake, a gang of fish and a partridge in a pear tree. Ok, maybe not that last one, but the point is my life is a glorious jumble of noise and nonsense. Its not exactly the ideal scenario for meditation mastery, but this is my life, and I love it.
Any down time I do get, to practice the visualisation that is so often recommended as a ‘grounding technique’, usually ends up with me falling asleep (oops). Therefore I’ve come to associate visualisation with relaxation, but not of the practical grounding variety. It’s probably ok to try that at the END of a working reading day, but it’s not going to look great if I end up snoring half way through a sitting. (Me? Snore? HA!)
In any case, visualisation is not always easy, right? Unless you have a natural aptitude for emptying your mind, or you have a ton of time to practice that, I think it can be quite a tricky thing in this modern world. I admire anyone who can effectively meditate or visualise unaided for a quick 5 minute session before a reading. If you DO find visualisation easy and effective, by all means keep at it! Whatever works for you! If you’re like me and live in a fabulous shroud of chaos, read on to see how I approach the subject of grounding.
The following techniques can also be used to alleviate anxiety!
I’m sorry to be a nag but this is so important! Not only does a clean clutter-free reading space LOOK nicer, the simple act of organising and wiping down surfaces is very effective as a grounding technique. It brings you into the here and now and forces you to temporarily forget the stresses of the day as you focus intently on your task.
If you believe that dirty spaces harbour bad energy, then thats another benefit of clearing up. If you don’t believe that, then at least you’ll have a nice clean space. I’m all for organised chaos, but if you’re reading for other people, its probably best to have a specific area that is free of it. I don’t know if its just me, but I feel SO much better when I have a clean house.
I understand that if you have small children or health issues it may not always be possible to have the place gleaming – in these cases, just commit to having your reading area clear of clutter.
My personal ritual is that I HAVE to have the dishes done before a reading. If I have dishes, no amount of mindfulness can clear those pests from my brain. I can just about ignore laundry drying on the radiators, but dishes: nope. Do you have a similar hang up? I’m curious!
If you can, go for a walk outside. If you can’t, focus on moving in any way you can. Pay attention to the movement. Concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other or touching the tip of each finger to your thumb. Put all of your thought into the action.
Instead of demanding silence.. which in a lot of cases is damn near impossible.. pay attention to the noises around you. Locate all of those little buzzing background noises and acknowledge each one. The hum of the refrigerator, or the sound of your children playing.
Your focus returns to you and you become more grounded as a result. Instead of a hinderance, noise becomes a way of removing yourself from unfocused thinking like ‘I hope x likes their reading’ ‘I can’t wait to get this reading done’ ‘I wish I could just have some peace and quiet’ – none of these things are condusive to effective grounding. So take 5 minutes out to acknowledge what you can hear around you. It may sound counter productive but it might just help clear your mind!
This is a technique I probably use the most for quick fix grounding. When I say that, I’m not saying grounding should be treated as a fad nor am I trying to diminish its importance. I simply mean that for the modern world, efficiency is an asset, and I find this particular technique to be most effective for me as a practical measure.
I’ve had moments before reading where I just have felt disconnected, or there has been a lot on my mind that I didn’t want to bleed over into my clients’ reading. This is where I apply the ‘look’ grounding technique.
You can do this any way you want, but here’s 2 methods I personally find helpful.
First Method: I pick out a spot on the wall, or the ceiling and I stare at it pouring all of my thought and concentration onto that spot. Sometimes I fancy the rest of the room fades away into kind of a white haze, and my mind just miraculously empties. I become far more relaxed and much better prepared as a result.
Second Method: if you find it difficult to concentrate on one particular spot in this way, instead look around the room and take note of whats around you. Are there any pictures? What colour are they? Are there ornaments? What shapes can you see? Take special notice of things as if you are seeing them for the first time. As if you were in someone elses house (or if you ARE then that makes it easier)!
This act of pouring your thought into the details of objects usually taken for granted, brings you into the here and now.
Talk to the cards. I’m serious! Speak out loud your intentions. Say ‘This is a reading for (insert name here) with the focus being on career.’. Say it 10 times if you need to. Say it until the words ring in your mind. Until it is the main thought that is doing the rounds up there. You will know when you feel ‘ready’ to start reading.
Do you feel a buzz after reading or do you feel completely drained? What does Tarot Ninja recommend in the event of being ‘ungrounded’ after a reading?
I have experienced both extremes, and somewhere in the middle. Some readings I feel like I am on a major high because either it was a really great reading, or I just ‘clicked’ with the client in some way. Often, I revel in this feeling only for it to come to bedtime and find that my mind is wide awake. This is NOT good when you have school runs and a big to-do list the next day. On the other side of the coin, I have had times where I’ve felt quite low after a reading – in these instances its often been due to not preparing myself adequately before the session. Preparation goes a long way!
After a reading its sometimes good to go straight for option 2 above. Go for a walk outside in the fresh air. Sometimes, though, it can be late by the time I’ve finished reading, and if my kids are in bed theres no way I’m going anywhere!
So if you find your concentration just isn’t up to scratch AFTER reading to go through the 5 techniques above, then my advice is: EAT, DRINK and BE MERRY.
First things first, though – acknowledge your days work by physically writing out what appointments you had that day and how you felt afterwards. If you’re no good at explaining feelings a simple smiley face or sad face will do. The idea is that you can move past the session by giving it a place outside of yourself. Its also good to look back on in the future!
You’re done for the day, loosen up those kinks and get yourself a snack. Savour the tastes and pay attention to the sensation of chewing. Reading can be thirsty work so get yourself a drink as well! Take a shower or a bath to ‘freshen up’ or just go and splash some water on your face. Again, pay attention to the physical routine of washing. Is the water warm? What does your shower gel smell like? Just thinking about these simple things helps you to come back to yourself in the moment.
Finally, go and do something that you enjoy. Read a book, watch a funny movie, knit. Don’t think about the sessions of the day – any unfinished business from there can
either be discussed directly with your client at the time of the appointment, or written down afterwards in the acknowledgement step mentioned above. This is why its great to have a designated Tarot Reading area if you can. By creating and sticking to a ritual, your mind will start associating that space as reading space, and the process of grounding becomes second nature.
Perhaps I can address the issue of not having the luxury of designated reading space in a future Tarot Troubleshooting Tips blog. What niggling problems do you have in your Tarot practices? Perhaps I can help! Let me know.
See you next time!
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